Thursday, September 06, 2007

Love Penalty

Gay marriage isn't legal. Same sex couples want the right to the benefits of a contractual marriage. They want to be able to adopt children together, to make medical decisions for each other, and to pay less in taxes.

On the other hand marriage between two people with disabilities can cause financial hardship. Benefits two people receive can be adequate to live on, but if they marry it can be too little. Some types of disability housing is restricted to people who are single. Some people because of having guardians are not allowed to marry.

In both situations we make people's lives difficult because they have fallen in love. We don't allow gay people to marry and we make disabled people suffer if they do.

If we provide a penalty to people who have long term relationships - are we discouraging people from becoming strong and more unified?

Why is the government involved in our private lives? Why are there benefits to abled-bodied heterosexual couples who marry and none to homosexual couples who desire to and penalties to disabled people who choose to. This is unfairness at its core.

1 comment:

Andrea said...

Absolutely. And the unfairness is just further compounded if you, your partner, or both of you have a disability AND you are ALSO a same-sex couple.

On another topic related to fairness, I wonder if you have given any thought to getting on your Soapbox at some point about the ADA Restoration Act of 2007? You might know that a series of court decisions over the years have undermined the original intent of the Americans with Disabilities Act of 1990. The Restoration Act is meant to repair that damage.

If you ever do a blog post on the ADA Restoration Act, please let me know becaue I have been trying to link to all the ones I can find in my continually up-dated list at I'd love to be able to include yours as well. I have been trying to encourage as many bloggers as possible to blog on this topic!